Hi there oblivion, first off, I'm the worlds worst advice giver on relationships because I'm on my 3rd divorce as we speak. But allow me to make some observations?

Where you said that he "doesn't think his feelings for me are quite as strong as mine are for him", it seems like he was simply telling you that he moves a little slower than you obviously have been, just because he said something about it. That was very, very nice of him. Men get a little nervous when things go faster then what they are comfortable with. They want to feel in control of the situation- how much control? That depends on the guy. He keeps saying he's not going anywhere. For heavens sake, he drives 3 hours to be with you. Let him lead the way. I think your reading too much into it actually, so Quit it!

Quit predicting the future!!! Or it will come true. You're getting so worked up KNOWING "it's the end" and it sounds like you've staked your entire future on it for added weight already, it's not going to end well just like you got it planned if you keep this line of thinking up! You need to chill girlfriend. I know our bipolar doesn't make it any easier, but screw the bipolar, it only makes things worse if we allow it.

Relax. Put your insecurities away. Get comfortable. Be the girl that he met and started really liking. Have fun! There's something about that girl that kept him around to drive 3 hours away to see. Don't change on him. He can pick up on the stress and fear. We all can because it affects every little thing we do or say. And you don't need to "grow less attached to him" either, just don't grow anymore. Stay where you're at and wait for him to catch up to pass and lead the way. Some guys like being led, he sounds like he's not one of them.

Y'all been together for only 5 months now? That's not a whole lot of time if you really think about it to get totally solid on each other. You're still like in the "seeing each other with exclusive dating" stage, which is not a bad place to be, but it's still close to the beginning. We need to pace this better. Now if it goes on for more than a year and a half and if he's worth keeping, then that's where I'd start nudging a little bit because we don't know if he's the totally committed type yet and we don't want to be wasting our time.

Of course, I don't know him or you or the way you two really are with each other or what his preferences are in women like he likes them needy or strong willed and if you fit that bill or not, but just basing everything I said on what I think I know, like I said, I'm on my 3rd divorce! Lol. Or you can say that I have plenty of experience!

Good luck Hun and may your dreams come true.