By "generalizable", I mean things that other people can relate to, without having your specific history.
Here's mine: I have value.
Not that I have value to someone or value in a particular circumstance, like a product in some market, just that I have value, period. Not for what I can do for someone or what they can get out of having me around. I have value; just that.
It's a journey, of course, but compared to years ago I do sense it much more.
So often we go against our own better judgment and values to associate with people or organizations that make us feel we have value. It's strange to ever consider we have value regardless.
Sometimes people even value us but we don't realize it. Or don't remember it. Or become confused because we also get conflicting message. And sometimes it therapists who also devalue us. But luckily I've had more good than bad therapists (e.g. two who traumatized me), and my journey is slowly getting close to good places, to field of flowers. To know I have value is liberating.
What is the best thing you learned?