Sometimes my past therapists have done this too bouncing back and forth about whether or not to continue with me. Finally the last time a therapist did this to me I flat out told them I didn't think their boucing back and forth was fair to me.. Boy was I not prepared for her answering back to me on that issue.. she told me that she was taking her cues from me. When I pulled myself back away from her or the conversation, problem..that told her that I was not ready to work on my problems. I was the one paying her. I was the one that came to her..She didn't want her and I to be waisting money and time that can be put to better use if I wasn't ready to do the work of facing whart my problems were and developing goals and working on those goals to fix my problems. So when she noticed I was distancing myself from her, the problems ect.. she would bring up the issue of whether or not we should continue together so that I was aware that what goes on in therapy is my choice and I control it and if I wasn't ready then it was time to either go elsewhere or take a break from therapy..

Ever since then I have been noticing my own behavours in therapy. instead of distancing myself I will not tell my therapist right out that they are moving too fast for me and whatever I need from them at that moment. since then I have not had any more problems with therapists being the bouncing therapist ball.

Im the one that sought out therapy and Im the one that needs their help so I now tell them what I expect and need from them.. makes therapy so much easier.