This is an awful thing to be going through. Your husband and his female friend sound like two people who may deserve each other. If you are still young, and I take it that you are, you might be happier 10 years from now, if you get out of this marriage now.

It's hard to face the immediate loss and loneliness. But, if you're free, you can look for a man whose idea of marriage meshes with your own. Your husband may have gone through a wedding ceremony, but in his mind, I don't think he ever really made the full commitment. He's had one foot in and one foot out since the two if you met.

If you don't have kids, thank your lucky stars and get out before you do.