"Should" should be banned. I know how ironic that statement is.

Anytime anyone tells you that you "should" do something they are trying to control you. They are judging you for living your life "incorrectly". They are scolding you into behaving the way they want you to. It's terribly confrontational, and it never leads to it's intended effect; it only gets people's hackles up and alienates them. It's an awful word.

I wish sites like these had the guts to add it to their banned word list, like profanities, it's that damaging. Especially when talking to people with Avoidant Personality Disorder and other conditions that stem from emotional child abuse.

I try very hard not to say the word, and when it does slip out, as soon as I realize it, I apologize. There are people on the forum who will verify that. I think if everyone pledged not to use the word, pledged not to try to shame people into compliance, it would make the world a much better place all around.