If you want to turn into leadership qualities try this....

1. I never thought that I was special. Although, whether its personal life or professional I usually end up fighting with people coz I get no respect or people didnt include me in a project when I deserved to.
dont fight with people. respect has to be earned as well as being invited into projects. if people value you and respect you, you will be invited into projects. do good work and you will be invited.

2. I also blamed psychiatrists/psychologists (I still think Im right in some ways) for there improper management of patients and/or the session itself.
we have to take responsibility for ourselves. pdocs/phd's can only go by the information we give them. however, i do agree with this one to a certain extent because i have been to many bad providers myself. we do however have to let it go and not continue to complain about it. we just have to move on and keep trying till we find the right providers.

3. I never was stimulated by any woman so much so that I chase after her and/or hope for a date and actually go through it.
i dont know that this is a horrible thing, unless you feel you are "too good" for anybody

4. In past 2 yrs, this is my third job. I blamed the mgmt and the team members (rightfully so). They never included me in any project work and when I tried they ran away or made some excuse so that they can keep their assignments and regular work to themselves while I struggled sitting alone. I never completed any appraisal cycle coz I presumed that since I havent done much work in the year what will the mgmt appraise me for. I talked to the mgmt and they just make me handle those situations.
here you are placing blame and feel justified in doing so. to be a good leader, we need to take the lead regardless of what other people are doing. feel confident in ourselves and do whatever work we can well regardless of the situations we are in.

5. My blood boils bcoz of inefficiency of people, the govt etc. I have very strong opinions and likes/dislikes.
it is ok to have strong opinions; however, not ok to measure others by those expectations. acceptance of others is the key to leadership.