i understand how difficult it is to begin "projects" for self-improvement and then be unable to follow thru. it is really frustrating. i was working on a huge project that my therapist really liked cause it made her job easier and last week i heard in my head, "we arent going to do this anymore". lots of hard work down the drain.......

i can share with you something simple that you may want to try that isnt a project, just something you can do each time you are faced with a decision. it is a way to change your thought process. just to become aware of your thinking and learn to make positive decisions. if you dont do it all the time it doesnt matter. just do it as often as you can.

it is based on abraham lincolns quote of when i do bad i feel bad, and when i do good i feel good. we all have thoughts, tons a day. not all of them are good. when we have a negative though, we are likely to take a negative action and then we feel bad about ourselves. when we are feeling bad, we increase our negative thinking leading to more negative actions and feelings. and the cycle continues. so the idea is, when you have that negative thought how do you turn it into something positive? then you will take a positive action and feel good about yourself leading to more positive thoughts, actions and feeling. this raises your self esteem.

so if you were thinking about going on the internet, negative thought, you go to sex sites, negative action, then you feel bad, ashamed of yourself. so next time you get on the internet, what positive thing can you think to do instead? go to youtube and watch funny or inspiring videos about recovery, then how will you feel about yourself? chances are you will be proud of yourself and your self exteem goes up.

you can use this philosophy for anything that you do.

hope it helps.