I think where most of us with transference issues get stuck is falling into the trap of feeling like our therapists are the only source of empathy, good listening, nurturing, guidance and so on. Big problem: therapists charge us money and boundary us to 50 min a week, which is normal for therapy but not typical relationships. I don't think wanting the positive things our therapists offer us is wrong or needs to be shut off. We do need to get out there and make genuine healthy relationships where we CAN get those needs met, and we're not charged money and ushered out the door after our paid time is up.

Getting involved in the community such as volunteering at a library or seniors center is a nice outlet. There are many empty nesters or retirees that would enjoy being a mentor to a younger person. Ditto with taking up a hobby like knitting, or woodworking. There are plenty of experienced crafts people looking to take newbies under their wing and teach.