Understanding that I do have control over how I decide to react/respond to events in my present has been difficult to learn and harder to actually do with any sort of consistency. But I find reassurance and strength in knowing I do have control of that aspect of my being. I can't control my husband's illness. I can't control the stresses at my job or at home. I can't control much outside myself, but I DO have that. I do have control over my decision making, my activities, my attitude, and (most challenging) my reactions.