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janniebug said:
Do any of your T's invite you to do things out in public?

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I did get one invitation. I had only seen my T about 3 times and was becoming really attached and not knowing what the h*ll was happening to me. I was thinking about him A LOT outside of session. And I was reading the In Session book about women's bonds with their therapists, and I was learning all about boundary crossings and violations, etc. And then at the end of a session, my T invited me to attend a certain event he would be at with a lot of other people--I won't say what the event is. He didn't invite me to attend with him, but just to attend the event, which he would be at. He said a little about it and why he thought I might like it and the sort of people who would be there. It totally freaked me out. I was very naiive about therapy and just learning about transference, attachment, boundaries, etc., and I felt an alarm go off in my head that said BOUNDARY CROSSING BOUNDARY CROSSING, lol. I said something like "oh, that sounds nice," or something non-committal but did not ask him details about when or where the event was. He dropped it right away. I'm sure he noticed me get uncomfortable and kind of stiffen when he said this. Now, many moons later, I have reached a high level of comfort and ease with my T, and if he asked me something similar, I would have no trouble fielding this sort of comment/invitation, but back then, I was too new to being infatuated with him and feeling really, really weird about feeling that way about him. I felt no way would I go to this same event he would be at. Would I have to talk to him there? Would we even see each other there? I didn't want him seeing me, because then he would see how dysfunctional I am in real life (I was still depressed then, and would not have been comfortable in a big social scene where I wouldn't know a soul). I just felt like AAAAACCCKKK!

What are you going to do about your T's softball invitation, JannieBug?