This is actually about a volunteer situation, not my job.

A few months ago I volunteered as a board member for a professional organization. I thought it would be a good networking move. I was kind of sorry I signed up after my first meeting - I didn't click with anyone and wasn't fully on board with the organization's goals. They aren't bad goals in the sense of being ethically wrong or anything, but it's something I feel more middle of the road than gung ho about.

I signed up for a subcommittee along with a few other people. We were responsible for a project I *was* excited about. Unfortunately, no one else was. I started to lose my enthusiasm because the work was more difficult than I anticipated and no one else was doing any of it. I suggested that we abandon or postpone the project due to tight deadlines and lack of interest, but a couple of other people volunteered.

One of them basically took the project over. She is not even a member of the board but is a paid employee representing an organization that provides some of our funding. She made unilateral decisions, leaving me to go back to people I'd already spoken with to tell them that things had changed. She completely changed the terms of the project. She started sending me rude, bossy emails, demanding I do X by Y deadline. Of course, she fails to meet any deadlines herself.

I received an apology from the president of the board, who pretty much said that he was sorry it had happened but that he couldn't do anything because of the funding situation.

After two hostile emails in a row, I replied stating that I was unable to meet the deadline and someone else would need to do X. That was my last concrete obligation to the project, and as far as I am concerned, I'm done with it.

I am not sure now if I will resign from the board all together or if I will just sit out the next meeting or two (until this project is wrapped up). I can think of a bunch of reasons to quit: not interested in the group, not committed to the goals, find more than one person difficult to deal with, really over committed with volunteer stuff in general.

In favor of staying: it's a professional organization that may have events I want to be part of in the future...

Anyway, this is more of a rant/vent than anything else. I started getting the hostile emails last night and really just can't believe the tone of them. It's like because I am the only other person who has ever done something on this project, she thinks I am going to do all of the stuff she doesn't want to.