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Originally Posted by berthegel
Hello shy introvert , I sometimes have the same problems as you , I find starting in a group where each of he group is a new starter ( say a college course) a little less daunting , I feel when joining a existing group that I'm the odd one out or am interloping, but sometimes other people with social anxiety that are in a set group maybe settled into friendships , and may only seem offish because you are new , just go for a short while and I always try and get the other person talking , show and interest in them, ask them did they find it hard joining the group. I can sometimes over compensate social anxiety by talking to much and doing to much superficial (though not intentional) chatting , at checkouts , shop staff, though this can help in little ways
Bye berthegel
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Hi, that's true, maybe most of those people have already settled into their own little groups. I'm not a newcomer to the group. I've always been an outsider in the group. Some people will talk to me if I talk to them first, but they tend to talk more to other people, ugh!
To make matters worse, I hung out with this lady that I thought was nice and friendly a couple of times, but she has yet to return my text from last night! WTH? Even if she's busy now, she could've at least had the decency to say sorry, but I'm busy now or something like that?
How rude! I won't sit next to her at the next meetup unless she asks me to. I feel like such a loser and an outcast. I try to be social, and I still get rejected. Maybe I might stop going to that group and end up going to the movies during the day by myself instead as it seems as if no one really likes me in that group-
