Lately I've been depressed for a long time, more so than usual since my bff has been doing the slow fade on me for no apparent reason. To make a long story short, we met about three years ago. When I first met her, she was a great friend! We'd hang out every week, and laugh, go out, and have fun! Then her life gradually got worse and worse. She lost her job, then her husband cheated on her twice.

She's stuck with him due to personal and financial reasons. After that, she couldn't find a job up until recently. During the last year, she was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure. Then her dad died, back in May of last year, then her other best friends mother, who was like a second mother to her died a few weeks later. Then she started getting very frequent panic attacks and she kept on having to go to the E.R.

So I was there for her during that time of course. I understood that she couldn't go out. I tried to help cheer her up and even offered to pay for an inexpensive movie, frozen yogurt, or suggest going to really cheap places with specials, or even just joining her for a walk with her dog! She would usually make up excuses to why she couldn't hang out with me. She'd usually tell me that her period is coming up. So I felt like it was a lie to get out of doing stuff with me.

She told me that she hasn't seen her other friends for a long time either, but I don't believe her as one time on FB, I saw that after she got her inheritance from her dad, she treated her other best friend that she's known for 20 years out to a burger place for her B-day with their other friend. And all she ever did was send me a text for my B-day! I never even got a call!! I don't expect her to take me out like she used to due to her finances, but she'd complain about money to me, but she can take her other friend out? WTH? That was back in October. Also, she'd invite those two friends over sometimes for steak while she was unemployed and complaining about money!

Anyways, I finally had it with her distant behavior so I left two v.m messages on her v.m telling her that I'm happy to hear that she got the job, but that I was hurt that she blew me off in her last email when I asked her if she'd like to hang out. She only told me that she got a new job. I

I was mad and I wrote her a long email about how I felt about her ignoring me and that I felt like she was making excuse to not hang out, and that if she didn't want to, then she should just tell me that. She seemed a lot better during the past few months, and her health got better too, so I thought that she'd want to see me then. She kept on making it seem like that was going to happen, but then she'd make excuses or ignore me when the time came to get together. It's been over three months since I last saw her in person! She ignored me unless I'd email or call her first, ugh!

I also pointed out some of the things that I didn't agree with about her, like how she went after a couple of married men, and that I didn't like her interrupting me all the time, not initiating plans with me anymore, and ignoring all of my calls, and basically not being a good friend. I know that I went a little to far, but I was NOT mean in my email! I was trying to help her understand how I felt, and that some of the things that she does is wrong.

So, does it sound like she was doing the slow fade with me? She did mention that she'd do that if she didn't want to be friends with anyone anymore, but like a hypocrite, she told me that if she had an issue with me, she'd talk to me about things. Yeah, right! I have always been a good friend to her, so this hurts me badly! I feel as if I was a piece of trash that's been used and discarded. I think that she is jealous of me, and I told her that in my email too.

She needs to have a guy in her life and be in love to be happy. She wants her own place (she's currently living with her crazy mom, and her husband is couch surfing with friends since they got evicted from their apartment), and to be taken care of. I have a husband and a house, and I get to travel, and I have my health, at least my physical health, so I do think that she's resentful of me. She stopped complimenting me a long time ago on everything, so that's a red flag to me. I also just told her that my husband and I will be going to Europe soon, so I bet that didn't sit well with her even though she said in her email to have fun on our trip.

Did I do anything wrong? Should I have not written that email? I was hurt, so I wasn't thinking straight. The only thing that I can think of to why she maybe doesn't want to be friends anymore aside from the jealousy, is that I've talked about her on here and on another board before. It's not likely that she came across what I wrote, but if she did by some chance, then she'd know it was me since I included to many details in my threads, ugh!

Other than that, why would she turn against me for no apparent reason? I'm really hurt by her behavior and I don't get why she'd do this to me after I've been so good to her all this time! I would always take her calls, and I even bought over an apple pie, ice cream, and some of my delicious cheesy potatoes to her when her b.f who is now her husband ditched her on Thanksgiving. WTH?

She did claim that I was a bit too needy in the past. She'd also say that I relied to much on other people and that she didn't want to hear me talk about some of my problems anymore if I'm not going to do anything to fix them. In the meantime, she'd always go on and on about her issues! I don't think that I was being needy as it's not as if I called, texted, or emailed her all the time. We only had one fight before, and that's basically when she bugged me to death to buy some stuff from her. She wouldn't take no for an answer. She didn't talk to me for two months until I apologized to her twice about being a bit harsh with her since I was so annoyed by her relentlessness.

I told her that I didn't appreciate her dismissive attitude once when I got hacked on my FB page after wishing her a Happy New Years. She then accused me of caring more about my social life and that I'm lucky that I don't have any health problems. She was acting like her problems were a lot worse than mine. It is, but that doesn't mean that my problems shouldn't matter. I think that she's selfish and that she doesn't like the fact that I'm standing up for myself and being more assertive now.

What do you guys think of all this? Is our friendship over for good? I'm not going to contact her again unless she contacts me. One thing is for sure, I will no longer trust her like I used to. It's been almost a year since her dad died, but could she still be depressed and in need of space?