Welcome to Psych Central Goldenguru. Sorry to hear you have been suffering from caregiver's distress. I have been suffering with someone with bipolar for many years. I go to the Chat Forum for bipolar and it helps me get perspective sometimes.

Some people at PC will find a therapist will also help them sort out the roots of their life.

Getting sleep may be the single one thing that keeps me in balance. If you are not sleeping or having bad side affects, contact your psychiatrist and tell him what is happening so you can make adjustments.

I find that mindfulness (meditation without the religion) and breath awareness help me cope with stress.

Many people find compassionate, caring people here at PC. Some people find the forums give them the compassion and empathy they seek. http://forums.psychcentral.com

There are articles that go into more detail about coping with self harm.
Psych Central - Search results for Coping with self harm

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