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Originally Posted by chimera17
Wow, what a complicated friendship!
To answer your question about her dad dying - yes, she could still be depressed. My dad passed away 4 years ago, and there are some triggers that make it feel like yesterday. One co-worker in particular that I had a falling out with during the period of my father's death is still a big emotional trigger.
It might be that you remind her of the bad times  As awful as that is, sometimes the people that are there in our worst times end up representing those worst times. She very well might be jealous of you, and your email may have been very hurtful.
I've sent emails like that too, and then regretted it later.
While it is possible that you might patch things up and be closer than ever, it is probably best to just give it some time and distance, and pursue other friendships in the meanwhile. Hang in there! |
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Hi, sorry to hear about your dad-
I'm not sure if she is being more distant towards me now because I'm a reminder of her past or not. I have no idea if she talks to her other friends still or not since I never met them. And I'm not on FB anymore.
I read on here that when other people are jealous of you, they go out of their way to avoid seeing you as it's often a painful reminder of how bad their life is in comparison. Frankly, that is silly and childish IMHO. I can't understand why anyone would act that way towards a friend and not be happy for them.
My email was NOT meant to be hurtful. I was letting her know how much she hurt ME. I wasn't really mean about anything, just honest. It's become very obvious for awhile that she is trying to ignore me and it does sound like she's doing the slow fade. Or she only wanted to keep me around to have someone to talk to about her problems, idk. I've encountered selfish people like that before to where they only want to talk about themselves all the time and they have no interest in being a real friend.
I will focus on other people for now. If she is going to discard me that easily, as if I were nothing more than a piece of trash, then good riddance. I don't want or need people like that in my life.