Let his wife help him. I don't believe in cross gender friendships among married people, like you are describing. Find yourself some female friends. Nurture them. What happened with your sig. other? Are you two still together? If so, your guy can't be too thrilled with you having this male friend.

This friendshio hasn't been good for this guy. Now you're finding it's becoming a drag to you. It's gone on long enough, with nothing good coming out of it. Move on. Cut the strings.