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But we did well in couples this week and are back on track.
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That is great news Sunrise!
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So today I declined an individual session for next week.
Wow, never thought I would ever be saying that! But the important work is in couples right now, and I am doing OK on my own.
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That is great progress declining a session. I'm so not there yet. I also had my session today. It was too short of course
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It was interesting today when T and I talked about how some therapists won't work both with a couple and individually with one (or both) of the partners. Or similarly, won't do therapy with different subsets of families (such as a mom and a child both individually and together). He talked about why his therapeutic orientation--humanistic and family systems--allows him to do that.
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Is that the only orientation that allows him to do both? My therapist does both and he's CBT but will mix it up depending on the clients needs.
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We discussed the risk in taking an individual therapy relationship into couples or family therapy. The risk is that the bond between the T and client will be broken or harmed, that the new client in the room will somehow come between the T and the original client, or that the original client will feel ignored or not important anymore, and trust will be lost.
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I can see the risk. In fact, he's right because I kind of felt like my therapist and I were losing the bond a little bit. I think I even said to him once 'you'll like him better than me everyone does and thinks I'm the problem'...something like that. Wow how childish was that behavior from me? Just remembering that is kind of embarrassing.
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Anyway, it was a good session, and even couples was good earlier this week--very nuts and bolts but productive. I am learning to work better with my husband as we uncouple.
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This is good and will be good for you and the whole family.
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As people have mentioned in their posts before, sometimes it is these seemingly insignificant little moments and utterances in therapy that affect the client most.
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I agree 100%. I love these moments too. I remember every one of them.
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At one point today he said "you're so cute" when I said something he found amusing (but which I didn't intend to be, lol). I love it when he says that. It makes me feel really close to him.
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Yeah!! I'm glad he said that to you. Sounds like all went well then so that is awesome news.