Crystal, I'm not sure if we're wasting time and money when we pull away? Isn't that just another "resistence"? and another way we are testing whether T will reach out to us and save us??? I've pulled back plenty and T has just sat with me. I think I spent a yr just talking about anything, building an unconsious level of trust? If One was missing appointments then I think a T's comments would be appropriate, but not if one is turning up, just the turning up is part of the therapy too.