Echoes, your last point "Listen to why we dont trust" I think is the crux of the problem. I even felt resistence to your question because part of me uses not trusting as a defence. Trust can be as simple as a decision one can make. But I think I am choosing not to trust. But its a choice I seem to be powerless over at the moment? Or is that just because I'd not said its a choice before? Maybe?

I remember T telling me when I told her I wanted to use, she said thats a choice I am making. I wanted to scream, "NO, NO,its not" alas I've found out it is.

I guess its connected with learned helplessness? Its hard taking back the power???