Hi Alexandra,

Welcome back. We missed you!

I know what you mean about that push/pull thing re: intimacy. Sometimes I feel so close to T and it feels good and other times it feels like he is looking through me and whoa...move on back, why don't you?

I think that maybe it's when that part of ourself that is resistent becomes aware of the merger, the dovetailing of the two, then we become defensive and claim ourselves back. I believe this is normal and how it is supposed to work--the constant searching for ourselves and finding those pieces and putting them back together.

Yes, the eye contact is the most intimate thing for me as well. When I read that part of your post, I could see T's eye, meeting my eye on Tuesday...it took my breath away.

Nope, I don't think there is anything wrong with you.