it may seem twisted to say this, but i remember when i was little, i loved my mom so much that i wanted to give her the love that i've seen people do when they're in love. i was just a kid and had no idea that there are different kinds of love. i offered to french kiss my mother. and, she just lovingly refused that in a gentle way that never made me feel bad for doing what i idid. she told me that she loved me very much and thanked me for the offer, but it's different kind that would understand once i'm older. it was such a good memory because she was so responsible and loving. it's not that hard to do to refuse when a kid flirts, no matter much they flirt, without making them feel bad about what they're doing. i had been sexually assaulted by my own father, so i know what you are going through. i'm just glad to have one parent that was good to me. i'm grateful, actually.