That happens to him too. I don't know the reason though. It seems to happen more when he's relaxed and confident. I thought him being relaxed and confident would help.

I really can't mention Viagra without hurting his feelings. Even mentioning him going to a doctor makes him think I want him to go on pills. And it seems cruel to put him through having headaches especially since there's no way I'd ever have an orgasm that way. Not to mention I'd get uncomfortable, bored, and/or distracted after about a minute or two anyway. And it's not like we can keep switching positions either. We only know two and can't expand to more than that because he can't figure out how to penetrate me in any other position. I really don't feel much anyway.

He almost always ejaculates before I can even find a comfortable position anyway. But if he were to last longer, I just get uncomfortable or run out of things to do if I'm on top. Both missionary and being on top hurt my hips if it goes on more than a minute or two so him lasting longer is just going to help him, not me.

He also can't go down on me for long enough for me to get off, if it's even possible for me to orgasm from that either (I never have). There's no way he'd be able to last long enough with his hand or with a vibrator. It takes just as long with a vibrator as it does with a hand for some reason. The only way I can have an orgasm is if I masturbate. I knew this before I even started having sex with anyone. It was a complete pipe dream to think that anyone else would ever be able to give me an orgasm.

And I've masturbated in front of him several times. I'm not sure what good it does. It just makes me feel worse about myself and about it taking so long.

The real problem is his focus in sex is giving me an orgasm through intercourse. So what am I supposed to do, fake one? I've already given up on ever having an orgasm outside of masturbation and I'm surprised that I was ever able to have an orgasm in his presence. I think they were flukes.

I got the vibrator to make it easier for me to reach orgasm and for me to learn to orgasm in other positions. It makes it much harder and the orgasms are not worth the time I put into them even when I'm completely on my own.