Well Christina, good question about my husband. My husband is not someone who likes confrontation and he's not a take-charge kind of person. He'll walk miles to avoid confrontation. He is helping me find a place to move to and giving me the money to do so. Also.....

The law here in California states that if a person lives in your home for more than 3 months they are considered a resident and cannot be made to leave without a legal eviction. Please understand: the police, whom I have called a number of times, will not remove the man from this house. They cannot legally do so without a restraining order.

Why don't I get a restraining order? Because I don't think it will stop this man from approaching me. I would be living here in complete terror. In addition, restraining orders in this state are very hard to get and only last for a few days. An exception would be if there has been overt physical abuse, as in, someone has been arrested for abuse. If there are minor children involved the law is much more supportive.

I'm really not interested in rehashing why this man is still under my roof. Obviously, if I could have I would have kicked him out. Obviously, I have tried.

My question is specifically about the day I move. I am experiencing terrible, severe panic about that day. I am experiencing awful guilt, knowing that when I leave my room-mate will likely be homeless and on the street. BUT I can get past that guilt. Really, my main problem is what to do the day I move...I don't know - perhaps this isn't a question anyone else can answer for me. I am just feeling so frightened and very desperate.