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Originally Posted by Sparks33
I've been a people pleasing perfectionist for as long as I can remember. Making others happy felt like my job as a kid and in all of my relationships. No matter how hard I tried I couldn't make people happy and I felt not good enough. Now I rarely try at what I do because I know nothing is perfect and if it's not perfect it's not good enough.
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I'm the same way except I was only assigned one person to make happy, but I also failed and began to see myself as inadequate. Most people wouldn't try to make a child responsible for an adult's emotional well-being as it's a pretty cruel thing to do and it doesn't work anyway (also it's the definition of emotional abuse). The adult has to be pretty desperate and needy so that they can't really think straight because they're just overwhelmed by unmet emotional needs.