Thanks almedafan, perna, and pinksoil.

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Is that the only orientation that allows him to do both? My therapist does both and he's CBT but will mix it up depending on the clients needs.

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No, I don't think his orientation is the only one. His orientation is just one that allows him to do it--the only other contrasting example he gave was psychoanalytical. Like your T, mine is eclectic, mixing and matching approaches depending on the client's needs.

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Sounds like you guys have really connected.

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It's true. I do feel so connected and attached and just really secure with my T. I feel comfortable with our intimacy and am not scared of it now. I used to be scared and do the push-pull thing, and throw up resistance here and there, but I have come to embrace our attachment and feel like it is really healthy for me, not unhealthy at all. I have talked once with T before about the post-divorce future and a worry I had that I would never be able to trust someone enough to ever have a relationship again. I was just feeling like, wow, I am soooo not ever doing this again! He said that many divorcing people feel the same way, and he said I would, with time, discover where I wanted to put my energy, whether into a new relationship, my career, art, spirituality, etc. And this could change as time passed. What I have come to feel BECAUSE of my close relationship with my T and the absolute TRUST I have in him, is that probably I will be able to place trust in a partner again in the future. I have spent so many years with my husband, never able to trust, and all that on top of my trust/abandonment issues from my childhood. It has been a huge relief to learn to trust all over again with my T. It has just really been therapeutic, I don't know how else to describe it. I guess that's what therapy is all about. I think this augers really well for me in the future and in future relationships.

Therapy is always a surprise to me. I thought I went for therapy to work on my problems, leave a bad relationship, and get on with my life. Instead I rediscovered my ability to trust someone again.