Since you acknowledge that you don't really know many women and don't have a lot of experience with them, I recommend that you avoid throwing out negative stereotypes. If you hold negative opinions about women, you are not going to attract women to you. While I'm sure there are women (and men) out there somewhere who are only interested in a partner for financial security, I have yet to meet any in real life. In my circle of female friends, we all make our own living and don't need anyone to provide for us. That said, we also don't want to date someone who would expect us to pay all of their bills. (We don't want to be used financially either). If you really are dedicated to being a loving husband someday, maybe you could start with feeling positively towards women in general. Really value and appreciate women. Drop all the negative thinking. You can't really be a loving husband until you respect women. Since you recognize that you have some issues to overcome (job, weight, etc)-- the first step to take towards finding a loving partner would be to become the kind of partner you yourself want. You can't really be a supportive and capable partner to someone else until you can take good care of yourself. Get the education that you need to find a job, or take an entry-level job, work hard, and work your way up. Start eating healthy and getting regular exercise. Or, if you can't do these things, then maybe work with a therapist who can figure out what roadblocks might be standing in your way. You can't really expect someone else to love you until you can love yourself. Male or female, it's very apparent when someone does not feel good about themselves-- and it pushes others away. Once you learn how to love and take care of yourself, I'm sure others will recognize that and be drawn to you as well. Just think about-- if you saw a woman who had low self-esteem and was not taking care of herself and thought all guys were just jerks looking for a "hot chick"-- is that who you would want to approach as a loving wife? Probably not. You first need to be the kind of partner you want before you can attract a partner.