Along the same vein as what Septembermorn has said, I think that these types of statements/beliefs, </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
I have a better chance of getting up out of my wheelchair and walking around on my own two feet than of having a loving relationship with a man,

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> are self-limiting, (not to mention not proven as accurate).

How about sending out a different vibe/energy/thought into the Cosmos and see what comes your way. If one is open to the idea of receiving, often what a person needs comes his or her way (sometimes from the most unexpected places and people).

The negative and extreme/fatalistic thoughts don't really do any good for you, and just add to feelings of hopelessness, etc. that then is projected outward when we meet people.

It does take a really concerted effort to turn that kind of 'energy' around, (and I'm NOT talking about wearing a smiley face all of the time; there's a huge difference).

It is true that what you believe will happen, is very often what we draw to ourselves.

Please don't respond by trying to impress upon me the burdens that you carry, for I truly do recognize them. Instead, I would so much like you to talk about how you can open yourself up to love, (from whatever source = like the people here, for instance, because all 'love' counts).

Love goes where love is, and you have a lot of love to give; what kinds of new ways can you think of to be more expressive about the love you have inside? For example, do you smile when the 'Peace of the Lord' is exchanged at church, or do you put your head down and avert your eyes?

How about this. When 'The Peace' is being said, look at people and think to yourself, "she/he is a child of God; I am looking at a child of God = Hello" --- I'd be willing to bet that just by thinking these thoughts, your eyes will automatically convey warmth and a sparkle that will draw reciprocation to you.