Hello butternut, I have to say that being hard on myself is a part of my life and I can certainly understand it. I dont usually get over it quickly, I usually take a while to get over it. I have found that in my childhood I was always told how stupid and worthless I am. Every time I did something wrong I was made to feel that way and now I do that to myself as if it is a sort of defense mechanism. I feel that if i make myself feel bad in my own power then no one else can do that to me. I've done it first. As far as thinking before I do something I usually don't, my thought processes are hard to figure out what to do before I act. I deal with things as they come and my advice would be to weigh in the pros and cons of everything that you do. I hope that this answers your question somewhat.