I am in my 50s and have been a loyal and faithful husband for all of those years. I have a successful career, do not have any substance abuse or mental health issues. Although I do not claim to be the perfect husband or perfect person, who is? I cook, clean the house, buy her what she needs and much of what she wants. I try to be attentive to her emotional needs as well. I have tried to set 'date nights' where we can go and do whatever she likes. But, when we are alone at home (we have no children) she rarely initiates a discussion much lees intimacy. I feel as if I have not a wife but a roommate. I have tried marriage and sex counseling, and all I have been able to accomplish is paying another bill. She says she loves me, but her interactions with me feel as though she would rather be anywhere else. Our sex life is one of (at least for her) reduced to 'Is it time?'. Whenever we do have sex it seems to me as if she could just as easily be doing another load of laundry. I have really tried to make her feel special, in and out of the bedroom. I let her know that I find her sexy, intelligent, capable in her career, and generally try to boost her self esteem at often as possible. What I get in return is less than I would expect from a fwb. I do not want a divorce, I want the woman I married, the one who loved me, the one who showed me affection and understanding. Anyone else in a similar situation or who has worked through a similar situation? I do not know what else I can do to regain her affection. Any ideas?