I can hardly believe that the last post in this thread was NINE days ago, and I only took action today. I could find a box that was large enough, so I cut away a side of one box and merged two with packing tape, and wrapped the whole thing in sturdy builders' brown paper -- what they put on new floors while the contractors are still working on a house to protect the flooring.

As the return address, I used his own address at the headquarters of the trucking firm where he works, where the guys can get lockers, mail, etc. I was tempted to put delivery confirmation on it, which I do for every single package I send just to be sure, but that would have been too big an emotional investment.

I rounded up a couple additional things of his still hanging around, a clean sweep. So it's done. For such a simple thing, it sure took me long enough. I mean, there are people with Real Problems on this site . . .

Thanks all for your feedback and insights on this, which somehow assumed more emotional weight than it probably should have.