Hello All,
I guess I am looking for some advice, and help with my current situation.
My history: I am 42 years old, divorced with 2 children. My BF (significant other) is 59, divorced (twice) and has 2 children as well. We have been in a long distance relationship for the past 8 years. He travels throughout the southern states for work. I am at home going to school. So for the past 8 years, we have only really seen each other 8 days a month. He comes home for 4-5 days every other week. He stays in different hotels, or sometimes will rent an apartment, depends on the length of the job.
So this past February, I found out he hired a prostitute for oral pleasure. She was 23. She and some friends were staying at the same hotel as he was. She had left a note on his truck to “call me”. I googled her phone number and found her escort profile. I confronted him about it, he didn’t deny it. We both agreed to go to counseling and have gone a couple of times. Because of his traveling for work, we are limited as to how often we go.
I have now become obsessed with this girl finding out where she is, if she will be where he is at. I know it should not be about her and I, it should be about him and I.
I have never had to forgive anyone before. I am the type of person who, if you do me wrong, I will cast you out of my life and move on.
We both feel that our relationship is worth savaging. But, I don’t know how to get past this, how do I forgive? I cannot just forget about it as if nothing has ever happened..
I don’t know what my next move should be, how to handle my emotions.