A Red Panda, Yes...I will alert my landlord just as soon as I feel very secure about giving 30 day notice. (Actually, it can be 60 days in this state.)

hannabee, that's quite a plan...I can definitely see where you're going and it could have some merit. I do think that if I sent "friend" on a taxi ride he would be highly suspicious.

sophiesmom, thank you for your level-headed post. It makes a great deal of sense. Yes, I do feel like my anxiety is out of control...been waging a fierce battle to get more centered and I have had some luck with doing so. I'm not as sick to my stomach as I've been and I am sleeping at night instead of lying there in a dread panic. I just wish, for the guy's own well-being, he would GET OUT before he has to stand alone, facing a lot of pain and all of what will go on when I actually move out.