yea I know sometimes being on line sucks and sometimes it does gets to me having to be so careful on line of not posting my real name, city town, address phone number stuff like that, and worrying about on line preditors who claim to be this and that when they aren't and just everything. (can tell I have anxiety problems huh?)

but then my therapist tells me that when I start focusing more on who is decieving who and worrying about on line preditors and so on beyond why she and I thought my being in an on line group would be a good idea for me - so that I can talk with people like me and not feel so alone and such things.. then its time for me not to be in that on line group.

She said I can't control other people online and what they post and what and how they use the internet for but I can decide for myself what I want to read and who I want to interact with and stuff like that. she said that if on line is a trigger then don't go on line

then she told me this joke about a person that told her that every time she turned her foot a certain way it hurt. The person didn't HAVE to turn her foot that way she just did even though she knew it was going to cause herself pain and then she complained about having that pain. No one was making her turn her foot that way and her foot did not naturally turn that way when walking. So the doctor told her sorry can't help you its your foot you control your foot and if that causes you pain then don't do that and the problem was solved for herself.

she says I control what I read and stuff on line and if something upsets me then its time t stay away from that post or thread or person.

No sense in my worrying about how to stop others that shouldnt be registering or are posting things that upset me for it does not good but cause me more upset. But my controling what I read and who I enteract with is called self nurturing and paying attention to what I need to do to keep me safe on line.

People reregistering happens and I don't like it when it does but I can't do anything about that except stay away from the posts and threads and people that I don't want in my life.

so I don't bother worrying about who may be this old member or that member and hey that person posted just like this old member..(funny story this happened a couple weeks ago on another website I recognized a persons post but the name was different. I showed it to my therapist and it turned out that both the old member and that new member were members of a real time group and under the same therapist working on the same therapy work because the agency only had one therapist that worked with that type of mental disorder. here I was ready to go off at someone because I thought she was someone I didn't like and I knew. Good thing I didnt because I would have been slinging accusations and blame and such at the wrong person.)

so now instead of worrying about what and how others behave on line I do and take care of me.