Maybe I'm misunderstanding. Are you saying that you have male friends who are your age and who are unattached romantically and that you hang out with them? If that's the case, I can see where most married men would not be too cool with that. Having an unattached male friend stop by for a meal with both you and your husband would be more appropriate.

That doesn't even seem to be the biggest issue. Your husband seems to be very unavailable to you for moral support. To not be able to vent about a stressful day at work seems very unfair. Doesn't he like to be listened to about how his day went? He seems to not have much cconcept about what marriage is all about. All those jealous accusations would certainly get pn my nerves. No one should have to keep denying false charges. You have every right to get sick of that.