Clairitytoo,

Heartbreak lasts for different amounts of time depending on the person and the situation. Sometimes it dissipates quicker than we expect, but other times it just seems to linger. I find with MI/DID a couple of scenarios play out. One scenario is I switch personalities and am over someone within a blink of an eye. Other times I repress the hurt so much that I believe I'm over it, only to switch an find myself crying all over again. Big decisions are the hardest for me because I may feel very strongly about something one minute, only to change my mind about it the next minute. I wish I had the right answer, but unfortunately I dont. Hopefully someone else on this forum has some good advice to give you cause I could use some myself! Take comfort that whatever is meant to be will happen no matter which decision you make. Good luck!