The person I am referring to who I fantasized about is no longer in my life. I never see her and never will see her from here on out. Just a person in my past.

Would people say that it is normal for men in relationships to be having a fantasy about another woman, even with absolutely no intentions of acting on them and with no interaction with the person? Is this something that I should feel guilty about, or am I putting myself on an unnecessary guilt trip?

I think the reason I am making myself feel as bad as I am about it is because it was a fantasy which I used during masturbation, and sort of used the porn video I was watching to stimulate the fantasy.

I have a tendency of forcing myself to feel guilty for everything.