Both of you sound like very indecisive people. Reading this is so confusing and frustrating (no offense) so I can't imagine what living it must be like.


You don't know if you want to leave or stay, your husband acts like he's not interested in being married, but neither of u have the guts to end this sham of a marriage...


He does things that makes you miserable, you in turn ask us what you should do, should u leave? we tell you what we think, then you ask your husband if HE wants to split, he says no but acts like yes, and so you stay, and become even more miserable.


Again, what about what you want?


Seems both of you want out of this marriage but neither are willing to be the one to call it quits. He pretends he's willing to be married and faithful, and you in turn keep asking him what he wants, instead of acting on what you want.


Aren't you tired of all this BS?

Aren't you ready to take control of your own life instead of leaving its fate in the hands of your husbands whims?


Idk, just seems like a messed up pointless merry go round.


Sorry, I have a habit of being blunt but I honestly mean no harm.