Your position on these things makes sense to me and you do not seem oversensitive. I hope you can find a lawyer who can help you sort out the property issues. It seems like your ex-bf may be taking advantage of your lack of confidence in your judgment about these things by making you think that you are too uptight when really he is the one in the wrong. It is something I have struggled with a lot, not being sure whether I'm being too sensitive or whether I am being taken advantage of. I am starting to err on the side of trusting myself and I think things are better for it!