thanks alwayschanging, that's possible since my sister could come and hand it to her. lifelies, that's possible too though i'd probably have to get my sister to mail it too haha
we've been thinking it over and if we let the one of us who deals with the denial out, he might be able to tell her what we think is going on even though it's "not true". if that makes sense.
either way the appointment's not for another week so we've got a while to decide how to approach it
i'm really tryin to get us all working together finally, i gave our denial guy a name and he's gotten a lot nicer since then so maybe we're just naturally comin around to getting help? or maybe it's all a ruse to get me thinking it'll be ok