Wow, he is so demanding. Hmm, makes me think of that saying, "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach", guess that is really important to your husband.

It was a big deal to my father too, my mother "hated" cooking and planning the meals, my father was always critical too so it was never rewarding for her. My mom developed dementia and never cooks anymore, I think that is most favorite thing of all, NO MORE COOKING.

Some cultures make it a big deal, don't know where you are or what culture you are part of.