Ab1081, Everyones loses are personal to them....I guess at some point we all feel/felt like victims.....I remember someone said something once about a tree instead of having branches with leaves on, had brances with everybodys problems on and people were asked to dance round the tree and pick the persons problems they'd much rather have? Of course everyone picked their own back again...

Things do happen, %#@&#! happens, its what you want to do about your reaction to them? How you want to continue afterwards? As sad a loss and problems are, they happen a moment in time and then theres the rest of time to be lived?

I personally entered therapy because I wanted to live life alongside my problems, not forever underneath them..

Talking about our problems with someone we can trust, helps balance the focus of the whole of our lifes, the good bits too, because we know there are good bits too.

Its really up to you what you want to do, in that matter you are not a victim, its your choice???