Hello Lovelylady77

This is a very good question.

Thank you for asking.

Can I ask a bit more here.

"What If"

This is the phrase I live by.

"What if xyz happens ....... then ........ "

I always answer my "What if xyz happens ..... then ...... "

So that I can work out plausible explanations that may indicate why I choose a certain behaviour.

So let me illustrate this example in your post.

Please post again.

And answer this question.

It may help us shed some light on your post.

"What if Lovelylady77 stopped lying and cheating. If Lovelylady77 started telling the truth and stopped cheating and lying then ............ "

Please finish this for me LovelyLady.