I'm going through the same thing been thinking about divorce my husband is jealous needy controlling and when I'm manic or depressed he doesn't uNederland and when I try and ask for some space to calm me bc I'm on edge he makes it worse so I have a plan to never be alone with him always have someone there so he doesn't escalte my mood when I'm in a bad mood bc then we fight and he has a fighter personality and he picks fight and says he calls the shots it gets back then I get out of whack and t causes my mains to go out of control and I start crying and fighting with him it's bad so yea I know where your coming from somewhat