You were incredibly generous to have sloshed thru everything I wrote above, I do wish it wasn't so long but i wanted to make the whole thing as clear as possible.

Money for the counseling? I have paid just what the insurance paid and no more, thankfully. If that's what you are referring to, i too would be very opposed to paying anything to help the person who I contacted to help me who seems to have incredibly ended up colluding with my son. I still find it hard to believe that he did that. It is nothing i would have ever anticipated. But i do remember telling a friend that i did not want to go because a little voice (the one we all have and sometimes listen to and sometimes not) told me I was right in my feelings of loss of confidence and inability to feel comfortable talking with him or entrusting him with any further confidences in the future.

It does occur to me that the tendency would be for people including the officers to believe my son over me because any allegation or admission of mental health / emotional problems automatically makes you suspect, which is not right imo. Thankfully the officer i was talking to was a stand-up guy.

I was grateful driving home and once getting there, to be free to sit with my dogs on my patio - that I was not locked up somewhere which would have been on top of everything else the ultimate betrayal if my son had been successful, the ultimate insult.