Is it right? No. Is it ok? No. Should he respect your wishes? Absolutely. But you can't control him or what he says, only your reaction to it. My mother loves to tell ANYONE that will listen about her crazy daughter and the hell I put her through. She often embellishes the story and leaves out any part that is not flattering to her. It used to drive me bat crap. Which then gave her more gossip about how I try to control what she says about me and how mean I am. SO since I can't change her I changed my reaction. I decided in the long run it's just words. Anyone that even remotely knows me knows it's all BS and taken out of context. If her life is so empty she has to gossip about me to feel better than so be it. If she has to make herself the martyr and soak up other's pity that's her damage not mine. What she says about me doesn't change who I am or what I think about myself. Would I prefer she kept my business to herself? oh absolutely but it's just not going to happen.

You have my utmost sympathy I know how infuriating this is.