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Originally Posted by hvert
This may be a really bad suggestion, but what would happen if you shared deeply private information about HIM? I guess that would just make you look bad... but how would he feel if you started sharing information about how long he takes in the bathroom or how he's starting to forget stuff and get a little shaky as he's getting older?
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I'm not sure. He might say something like, "I don't care if you share personal information about me." Well that's great, but guess what? I DO care. Just because you don't have privacy boundaries doesn't mean I'm not allowed to set my own privacy boundries.
I don't think he originally started doing this with bad intentions. He's a very self-assured person and he felt confident that this was a way to help me and that he wasn't doing anything wrong because he was portraying me in (what he believed to be) an overall positive light. But now I think he might be doing it just to spite me because I asked him to stop. He does that with many things. Whenever anyone tries to tell him that he's doing something wrong, he digs his heels in and becomes obsessed with trying to prove THEM wrong.
The first thing that family members and friends of people with mental illness need to do is admit that they probably don't have all the answers. If someone says that it makes them feel worse when you discuss their mental illness with others, you should listen.