Hello all I'm new to this forum and this is my second post of the evening.

I am 33 male. I spend a lot of time fantasising about about having sex with other men, occasionally watch gay porn and go into chat rooms talking to men and sometimes going on webcam together and mutually masturbating. I'm not proud of this behaviour and it tends to make me feel numb afterwards. Only on one occassion have i had a physically intimate relationship with another man - i enjoyed it but had no desire for it to become a relationship.

I feel strongly attracted to women also, and have had intimate relationships with women. My longest relationship was 3 years. But now at 33 and single, I feel scared to be in a committed relationship for the fear of being trapped.

I am generally quite easy to get on with when I meet people in day to day life BUT i feel that with this uncertainty about my sexuality i am losing my sense of who i am.