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Originally Posted by divine1966
I think when you got married you had to discuss who does what. I think you two are extremely confused on what you need to be doing. Even the Basic who pays for what. You first said he only pays mortgage and you pay the rest groceries and utilities etc that's a lot, now turns out you don't? He pays for everything? When you quit your job did you discuss it with him? Do you two even know who does what? You two seem to not know each other do not know what the other person wants or even what you two yourself want. Sound like two of you are no where near ready to be married.
You knew each other for 6 years yet you didn't know he is a slob or wants you to do everything around the house. You two are like in a daze!
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No. I quit one job and picked up another, already working one which meant I worked two part time jobs. We discussed that I would pay the small bills and groceries. He pays the mortgage and tuition (which is a lot more than I pay). I'm not making the money he makes because Im still in school. Once I finish then I will bring in a lot more money.
He wasn't a slob. He was messy and would help me pick up but didnt like it. Once we got married we decided to pay the bills they way we discussed it.
Once we married things stayed the same. In February when I left the house, He said to me that once we got married I should of know that I was supposed to do the wife duties. That's what this problem is all about. He said I ruined the marriage because I DID NOT DO THE WIFE DUTIES!! He said he gave me hints and I didn't get it!!!! SO I RUINED IT!!
HE never communicated anything to me so how was I suppose to know he wanted me to do 100% of everything!!
Yes, this sounds ridiculous to me to. COMMUNICATION!! Not throw me out of the house and not speak for two weeks.