Maybe you could keep your eye out for a "beta" female. Not that I agree that people can be divided up like that. But there most likely is a lonely female out there who would enjoy the warmth and kindness that you could show her. It really is a shame that there is so much unnecessary loneliness in the world, just because people who could be comforted by each other don't know that their counterparts even exist.

I speak from experience of not being very outgoing and ending up alone a lot. But, when I would push myself, I would find that a lot of me being alone was due to not venturing out. I would remind myself that no one is going to show up and ring my doorbell. It takes making a move to meet others. Also, it takes being open to people who might have a few problems.

The way you are characterizing women really isn't true, generally speaking, and I think you know that in your heart. It is tough to not have a job, but plenty of unemployed men do have girlfriends. My bf was unemployed when we met and stayed that way for quite a while. Yet we are together for many years now. Things turn around. I don't recommend staying alone.

There are young women out there who tell themselves the same things that you are thinking . . . that they are not the right shape, or the right weight to be wanted by anyone. Think of how many women there are who are single heads of households with no husband whose funds they can claim. Often they took a chance on a man who let them down and left for another woman.

Being with someone who is nice and kind and warm doesn't get all that boring. Sometimes, people have to get hurt by the alpha types . . . the charasmatic types . . . to be able to appreciate that all that is good doesn't have to be flashy.