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Originally Posted by guilloche
I almost wish there were "review boards" that had to approve T's terminating clients if they'd seen them for more then... oh I don't know, say 2 months? Long enough for attachment to form, anyway.
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I agree. I think it should be public knowledge of grievances and law suits. Sort of like the better business Bureau for businesses.
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Originally Posted by guilloche
What you wrote reminded me of that. You have a lot of self-awareness, you care about people, you try hard to not run over people's boundaries... if your T had a problem with you, and if she had let you know... you would have moved heaven and earth to fix it, if it was fixable. You had already bent over backwards to do what she asked you to do (to try to heal) - things like trying to talk instead of writing, including her in your crisis plan, going to the DBT group.
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You're right. I would have done anything I possibly could to fix things.
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Originally Posted by guilloche
It's a very "not human" way for her to act.... and it still makes me mad on your behalf. You had talked about her modeling a "real" relationship for you. In real relationships, people don't just quit. People talk through problems, negotiate boundaries, figure things out.
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Thanks for reminding me of this. Another point to make. Typical relationships are not ended this way...least not healthy ones.
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Originally Posted by guilloche
Anyway... I hope each day gets a little bit better. I'm still so impressed with how well you've gotten through this, despite all the pain and misery. Seriously. I feel like I really need to set a higher standard for my own behaviors now
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It's up to you what your expectations are of yourself. But make sure they're obtainable. I actually only have a few expectations of myself: be caring, be logical, and keep trying. Beyond that, I just do whatever it is that I feel in the moment. Like today. I was driving home from dinner with my mom and I got it in my head to go to the beach. I started doubting myself, but I keep telling myself that there was a reason it popped into my head at that moment and so I needed to follow through.